We all have had our insecurities and while some of us have been able to come out stronger, others have allowed it weigh them down.
Insecurity is a lack of assurance and uncertainty in ones self. it is a state of the mind that is directly related to low self esteem and lack of confidence. It is actually the birth child of low self esteem and lack of confidence. It manifests in how you see yourself and how you relate with people subsequently.
Insecurity breeds mistrust and an overwhelming need to control people. Insecure fellows have difficulties accepting people for who they are, even as they have false high standards which they expect people to live up to. The truth is everyone experiences moments of insecurity and doubts in their their abilities but failing to dwell on such feelings is what makes some people strong.
Low self esteem
This is one of the major fallout of being insecure. People with low self esteem deny their persons and fail to value themselves. This affects their self confidence and assurance which leads to such people living a false life. Low self esteem can occur as a result of a false image of perfection which usually involves comparing your real self with the false image you have in your mind. This results in damning judgement and self rejection against your real person.
Vulnerability
This is another manifestation of being insecure. It is normal for people with insecurities to feel exposed and vulnerable. They are mostly shy around people they barely know but tend to cover this fact by giving off an air of arrogance and pride. This is however a sort of protective mechanism from criticism which they have difficulties handling because of the constant comparisons between themselves and others.
Depression
This is perhaps the most negative fallout of being insecure. It has been statistically proven that insecure people are deeply scared of failing and as such, have a pessimistic nature. Due to the fact that insecure people are shy, they have difficulty expressing their feelings. This makes them have a lot of bottled up feelings that they think about. This has been linked to depression in certain people.
More so, a link has also been established between depressed, insecure adults and emotional and physical abuse in childhood. Mark Tyrrell - a therapist and life coach says that people that were emotionally and physically abused as children were found to have low self esteem as adults who have little value in themselves and who think their opinions don't count.
Now that brings us to the story of Adam and eve. Its simple really. Adam's lack of self confidence made him accept the apple eve gave him without question. Think about it, that tree had been there all the while adam was in the garden long before eve was created yet Adam deferred to eve's judgement and showed a lack of confidence in his own which led to their banishment from the garden of eden or what do you think? * winks*, that's on a lighter note
What to do
If you've been plagued by insecurity all your life and feel there's no hope, do not despair the following are steps to build your self confidence and enjoy healthy relationships with people;
- take time to think about your personality and background
- remember that you're special and unique, wonderfully and fearfully made by God
- accept who you are despite your weaknesses and strengths
- don't beat yourself up when you make mistakes instead learn from them
- focus on your positive events , focus on your good points and accentuate them
- Improve on your weaknesses
- finally, never try to be who you are not
Believe in yourself and take everything one step at a time. In time, you will get the required confidence and self assurance to finally nip your insecurities in the bud.❤
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